“Sex with three married ladies”

I had sex with three married ladies who don’t have any infection without condom is there any chance for me to get AIDS?


Dear Sandeep,

Thank you for your interesting question. Your question is interesting because it brings up several points about HIV/AIDS and HIV/AIDS prevention that are definitely worthy of clarification and answers. So let’s start:

I had sex with three married ladies”  Did you have sex with all three women at the same time? If not, how long ago was the first encounter, what was the length of time between the encounters, and how long ago was the last encounter? Answers to these questions are relevant to what is called the ‘HIV window period.’ You can find detailed information on the ‘window period’ at Getting Tested which states “Most [HIV] tests look for antibodies produced by your body to fight HIV infection. These antibodies don’t develop immediately but emerge within three months of being infected. The average time for antibodies to develop is three to four weeks. In rare cases, they take six to 12 months to develop.”

“who don’t have any infection”  How did you know with certainty that all three women did not have any “infections”? Had each woman recently had an HIV test and were each not within the HIV window period? It is important to note that the last two questions are just as important from the women’point of view about you – how were they certain that you didn’t have an (asymptomatic) STI or that you were not within your window period?   Not to mention, how could you be certain that their husbands didn’t have any STIs (including HIV).   And if another mans wife is having unprotected sex with you, how many other men is she having unprotected sex with?   Are their husbands also having unprotected sex with other women?   The point here is that when you have unprotected sex with anyone, you are exposing yourself to all of the risks they have exposed themselves to.   The risk of contracting an STI (including HIV) is therefore exponential.   Many people tell lies for many different reasons.   The bottom line here is PROTECTING YOURSELF.

“…without condom…”   —    In addition to be highly effective in preventing STIs (including HIV), condoms are a very effective form of contraception.   What problems would you and any of these 3 married women have on your hands if any of them had become pregnant or if you had acquired (or given one of them) a nasty infection?   Condoms are available in many various styles and sizes and very cheap when compared to the costs of incurring a disease or unwanted pregnancy (you can even obtain condoms for free at many locations).   Excuses for not using a condom abound as do the myths (ie., reduction of sensitivity, can’t find a size that fits, disrupts intimacy, etc.).   Truth be told, there are ways to eroticize condom use.   Experiment!   Practice!   Get yourself an assortment and masturbate using the different condoms to find out what works for you.   Ask your sexual partner to help with this experimentation.   MAKE IT FUN.

“…is there any chance for me to get aids?” —   “AIDS” is an acronym for “Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome”.   “HIV” is an acronym for “Human Immunodeficiency Virus”.   HIV is a virus that attacks the immune system and adversely affects a persons ability to fight off diseases that people without compromised immune systems can readily fight off.   See HIV – What? How? Who? for more information.   AIDS generally refers to the final stages of HIV as defined by a number of clinical factors (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/AIDS for more information).

In conclusion, I would like to share a saying with you:   “If you assume that EVERYONE you have sex with is HIV+, and act accordingly to protect yourself, you don’t have anything worry about.”

Dr. Punewali

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